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The purpose of the 12-Steps for the Foster Community is to recover from compulsive, out-of-control behaviors and establish manageability in their life. It is meant to build a family of recovery of fosters who meet regularly to support each other and share recovery and strength from one foster to another foster. This family bond will develop out of the depths of tragedy to form a unity with love and understanding among its members.

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The Foster Anonymous book is part of our 12-Step Program for the Foster Care Community. The 12-Steps have brought recovery to millions of people. If you are one of the many fosters that are looking to take your life back, and you feel you can be honest, open-minded, and willing, then it is time to take action. This is not a book just to be read. The book along with the workbook, sponsorship, virtual and in-person meetings make up a complete program of recovery. This program is for any foster who have suffered from tragic childhood experiences. This is the 1st edition of Foster Anonymous. The principles have been condensed, and the language has been modernized. The 2nd edition of the book will include personal stories and grow with the success of the program. If you are tired of people running your life and your behaviors are holding you back, it is time to join F.A. This program will be the first day of the rest of your life.


“Affording, receiving, or sharing nurture or parental care though not related by blood or legal relationship.”

By definition, anyone can be considered a Foster in the F.A. Program. Everyone is welcome!

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  • Big Papa Live Event – check Live Event times to ask the founder of F.A. any questions.
  • Sponsor Welcome Event – check Welcome Event times to learn more about becoming an F.A. Sponsor.
  • Volunteer Welcome Event - check Welcome Event times to learn more about Volunteer opportunities at Foster Anonymous.

  • Yes, you can access our YouTube podcast on the Home page of this site. There is a hyperlink to our YouTube channel, or you can watch it by hitting the YouTube play icon.
  • The podcast focuses on an introduction to the program, how it works, our cooperation with organizations, and the benefits for fosters and the foster care community.

  • No, Foster Anonymous is not a religion. We are a spiritual program of each person’s understanding of a power greater than themselves.
  • Members are free to set up individual groups in the program for their common understanding of their higher power. For example, groups of Atheists have adopted 12-Step programs and found common ground amongst themselves.

  • No, on the contrary, Foster Anonymous allows for the open sharing amongst themselves in a free and trustworthy environment. No one is told what the outcome of their 12-Step experience or higher power should be. The members share their experience, strength, and hope and build a camaraderie with fosters that have gone through similar experiences in their lives.

  • Foster Anonymous, Inc. is a non-profit organization. Proceeds go to the foster children for books, phones, laptops, events, clothing, food, shelter, and expenses to administer a secure dedicated server and website.
  • F.A. is financed through grants, donations, charitable contributions, and corporate sponsorship.
  • Foster Anonymous is supported through the desire of volunteers and sponsors to be of service to others.

  • Yes, there are several security measures in place:
    • All foster children 17 and under must be approved by their parent, legal guardian, or foster parent and case worker to gain membership to the F.A. program.
    • The parent, legal guardian, or foster parent and case worker must match and approve the sponsor an under 18 member chooses. They are required to vet the potential sponsor with fingerprints and background checks.
    • Like all 12-Step programs, anonymity is a key to success of the F.A. Program. Member information is encrypted and secured on a dedicated server. Personal information is not disseminated for any purposes. Members hold their own login password.
    • Closed meetings are only open to members of that particular group. Attendees are allowed entrance to the meeting by the Chairperson who recognizes the member as a participant in their group.
    • Meeting lists are only visible by age group. Members age 18 or older are not able to search a list of meetings for members 17 and under and vice versa.
    • For security purposes, meeting locations are only identified by zip code, not exact location.
    • In meetings, fosters only give their first name. They never tell their location, and they know that what is said in a meeting, stays in the meeting. They understand anonymity is crucial to their safety, growth, and recovery.

  • Anonymity is the cornerstone of the F.A. Program. Meetings are open to participants who sign up to become members to the program. You can go to the Membership page and fill out the form to join.
  • F.A. Membership is free.
  • The sign-up process depends upon the age of the member.
    • People age 18 or older who complete the form are automatically set up as a member and can immediately access the Meetings page, download a free Foster Anonymous e-book, and access potential Sponsors biographies.
    • Foster children between the ages of approximately 12 to 17 are required to have their parent, foster parent, or legal guardian complete the “17 and Under Consent Form”. Once the form is approved through our validation process, Membership will be turned on for access to the Meetings page, to download a free Foster Anonymous e-book, and to view potential Sponsor biographies.

  • We welcome Volunteers to host F.A. meetings. You can use any of the following ways to request access:
    • Fill out the secure Volunteer form at and choose Meeting organization as your interest.
    • E-Mail and let us know you are interested in organizing an F.A. meeting.
    • Fill out the Contact Us form on the Home page and input your request into the message field.
    • As a Member, fill out the form on the bottom of the page for “How to Set up a New Group Meeting”
    • Suggest your interest in hosting an F.A. meeting by attending any of the scheduled Live meetings by clicking on the red Live button on the top left menu of the website.

About Foster Anonymous

The founders of this program have 30 years’ experience in 12-Step recovery and sponsorship. Foster Anonymous started when Big Papa was going through the adoption process and doing his research on fosters. Big Papa has recovered through the 12-Steps. He realized the fosters’ behaviors were the same as all other 12-Step programs. 12-Step programs have been successful in over 180 countries and 100 different languages. Big Papa felt confident that these same principles from the 12-Steps would work for the fosters. Before Foster Anonymous was founded, no one had attempted to apply the 12-Steps to help fosters recover from traumatic situations in their lives. If we have the same success as they do, it will revolutionize the foster care system. Big Papa looks at the newcomers to F.A. as pioneers of the program. Our hopes and prayers are to create the largest recovering forever family. As we grow in understanding and effectiveness as a family, we will watch our fellow fosters grow in recovery around us. This is an experience you must not miss. Big Papa will be looking for you on the happy road to recovery.

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Our services aim to support your journey from beginning to end along the road to recovery.


12-Step F.A. Program


Many people who have suffered from unmanageable behaviors have recovered from this program. 12-Step Programs have been accredited by doctors, counselors, therapists, and spiritual advisors around the world. We are excited to bring this 12-Step Program to the Foster Care Community.

On-line Meetings

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Due to new technology we are able to reach as many fosters as we need to through phone, tablet, laptop or computer. You will be able to attend a meeting anytime of day. These meetings will become part of your recovery, and you will meet other recovering fosters from all around.

In-Person Meetings

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In-person meetings are crucial to recovery. It is where you are able to meet face-to-face with other fosters and connect in person locally with your F.A. family.


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Sponsorship is a one-on-one relationship where a skilled mentor helps guide you through the 12-Step process.

F.A. Services

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F.A. Services are offered to Members and will continue to grow as the F.A. community expands. New ideas are always welcome.


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The F.A. program includes the Foster Anonymous book (in paperback or e-book) and the F.A. Workbook. The books along with your sponsor will guide you through the 12-Step process.

Events & Activities

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As we grow in recovery and friendship, the community that we bond with will also learn how to have fun and enjoy activities with each other.


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Foster Anonymous is a non-profit organization. There are no dues. We operate on donations. Most fosters have no means, and the donations go towards food, shelter, clothing, books, meetings, and recovery. Donations are used to help the fosters recover and gain their independence back into society.


“Our vision is to create a family amongst fosters, adopted fosters, aged out fosters, and anyone that has suffered tragedy in life. Our hopes are that all who belong to F.A. recover and regain their independence, but always remain forever in the F.A. family to help those who are still recovering.”

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The information presented is an opinion and does not constitute any mental health or medical advice. The content of this website and the F.A. Program is for informational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any condition or disease. Please seek advice from your healthcare professional for your personal health concerns prior to taking advice from this website or the F.A. Program.